Irritation

[Blight]

It started out O.K., but this is a depressing thread. As soon as I read about Andromeda18_ I felt disheartened cause I can relate. My ?biological father? as I refer to him beat my mom; I?d kill the SOB but don?t know where he is. I got lucky though because my mom remarried and my dad, who legally adopted me, is a great guy, and I?m proud to carry the ?Wilkerson? flag rather than ?Shy?.

I think a lot of problems with kids are that they don?t have positive role models. There is a good chance if that bastard had raised me all the way I would be a monster like him. Instead, I so adamantly refuse to touch a girl in any aggressive manor that I?ve got stabbed for it (though she was a crazy bitch ). Parents need to take some responsibility not because if they mess up their kids will be screwed up but because a lot of parents just don?t realize the command they have. They get to sculpt a life and that is a powerful thing. Setting limits is a big problem; a lot of parents give in because they are afraid of confrontation and don?t want to fight with them. Limits need to be set when they?re young so that a mind set is developed of what is acceptable and what is not. Communication is what?s most important though. You got to wonder why the parents of those Columbine kids didn?t know what was going on before hand. The answer is as simple as they didn?t talk to their kids, didn?t know what was going on in their lives, and couldn?t share their pain. Kids and teens will never just come up and ask for advice or volunteer what they?re information on themselves. All of this stuff is the reason why the idea of me being a parent is terrifying; I couldn?t to it. I am no where near strong enough to be a parent yet so Zagatto?s plan of get a license sounds like a great idea to me.

All that proves being a parents isn?t easy and even if you?re a good one some things just get neglected. I?ve seen tons of kids that are genuinely assholes just because they can be and are perfect angels around their parents and other adults, so a problem seemingly doesn?t exists for them. Then there are the kids that just seem to hate everything and don?t give a care about anything. They attack (verbally rather than physically, most of the time) teachers, other kids and even their parents. I think there is a universal decrease in respect for people that are older than them, or just all other people collectively. When I was a freshmen on the baseball team in high school I did everything the seniors told me to, they could have asked me to clean a toilet and I probably would have but, by the time I was a junior none of the freshmen even wanted to pickup equipment after a game. They all had smart mouths, were thieves (stole peoples drinks and sunflower seeds all the time), and didn?t even respect the coach just because they weren?t getting to play. Really pissed me off! So, not every thing a kid does is a result of a mishap by his folks, some can just be uniquely despicable.

As for the whole spanking thing, yah I think swats are a punishment that has a significant impact on the thoughts of a person. You either think, ?Well, if I get caught I?ll only be grounded for a little while? or, ?If I get caught it?s an ass beating? which do you think they are going to think about more, the time they spent at home playing video games or surfing the net. The butt warming usually sticks in there a little better (though I typically got both). There is an obvious line between abuse and spanking so there should be no problem with punishing an ill behaved and especially a defiant child that way. Sometimes it?s the only thing that works. If I just got grounded it never worked on me, I could be a real stubborn shit on occasion and going to my room was planning my next move. But I always knew my parents were really pissed when I got a swat and I just gave up. (Ha ha ha, it?s funny to think about all the stuff I pulled. )